brainstormed during session 2 of Radical Acting in Faith on July 23, 2020
- Humility
- Calling out racist behavior
- Relationship based
- Believing a person’s story
- Listening, listening, listening
- Not blaming, questioning
- Observing
- Courage
- Brave
- Principles
- Integrity
- Permission or consent of the person you are accompanying
- Noticing
- Witnessing
- Moving beyond your comfort point for someone else
- Willingness to make mistakes
- Clearly naming something as not okay
- Take a risk that may not work
- Being mindful of the danger that is present for people of color
- Speaking truth of the incident, not demonizing the person
- Taking responsibility
- Honesty
- Listening with the heart
- Not worrying about how I look
- Stepping into conflict
- Putting their asks ahead of our wants
- Understanding context holistically
- Putting your body in the game, in harm’s way if necessary
- Speaking truth to power
- Within relationship, within community, not a contextless relationship
- Willng to risk a friendship by calling out racism
- Not making things more dangerous for BIPOC
- Starting while uncomfortable
- Making sure we are listening to person affected by injustice
- Not trying to look good
- Committed to stay for the whole interaction, not just dropping
- Acknowledgement that inaction is equivalent to support for system
- Not expecting praise
- Creativity
- Calling in: show respect to get respect
- Risking my own safety
- Staying with the situation
- Shining a light on the unjust action
- Being calm in the storm
- Not taking criticism personally
- Power with
- Being willing to be seen as “not good”
- Acknowledgement that inaction in the situation can be akin to support for the status quo
- Validating the person’s experience
- Recognizing other’s pain
- Waiting before acting
- Recognizing that building a relationship takes time
- Focusing on BIPOC person’s needs, not your need to be a hero or savior
- Emotional regulation