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Attributes of empathetic/principled accompaniment from Radical Acting in Faith

brainstormed during session 2 of Radical Acting in Faith on July 23, 2020

  • Humility
  • Calling out racist behavior
  • Relationship based
  • Believing a person’s story
  • Listening, listening, listening
  • Not blaming, questioning
  • Observing
  • Courage
  • Brave
  • Principles
  • Integrity
  • Permission or consent of the person you are accompanying
  • Noticing
  • Witnessing
  • Moving beyond your comfort point for someone else
  • Willingness to make mistakes
  • Clearly naming something as not okay
  • Take a risk that may not work
  • Being mindful of the danger that is present for people of color
  • Speaking truth of the incident, not demonizing the person
  • Taking responsibility
  • Honesty
  • Listening with the heart
  • Not worrying about how I look
  • Stepping into conflict
  • Putting their asks ahead of our wants
  • Understanding context holistically
  • Putting your body in the game, in harm’s way if necessary
  • Speaking truth to power
  • Within relationship, within community, not a contextless relationship
  • Willng to risk a friendship by calling out racism
  • Not making things more dangerous for BIPOC
  • Starting while uncomfortable
  • Making sure we are listening to person affected by injustice
  • Not trying to look good
  • Committed to stay for the whole interaction, not just dropping
  • Acknowledgement that inaction is equivalent to support for system
  • Not expecting praise
  • Creativity
  • Calling in: show respect to get respect
  • Risking my own safety
  • Staying with the situation
  • Shining a light on the unjust action
  • Being calm in the storm
  • Not taking criticism personally
  • Power with
  • Being willing to be seen as “not good”
  • Acknowledgement that inaction in the situation can be akin to support for the status quo
  • Validating the person’s experience
  • Recognizing other’s pain
  • Waiting before acting
  • Recognizing that building a relationship takes time
  • Focusing on BIPOC person’s needs, not your need to be a hero or savior
  • Emotional regulation

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